Sex Tips : Dumped? You'll survive, even thrive, despite this heinous humiliation
Eve says:
It's the worst feeling. The word "dumped" kind of says it all -- it means you were taken by surprise, just riding along thinking everything is all nice-nice, and then WHAM! You're sitting out on the asphalt while Mr. or Ms. Dump Truck Driver speeds off.
Because this feels pretty much like an icepick to the heart, I think you have to treat it like a serious injury or illness, really focusing on YOU and how to heal. Thing one is allow yourself to feel the rage. Everyone is angry and hurt about being dumped -- you just have to find ways to channel that rage in ways that a) are good for you and b) your ex will never find out about (because you don't want to look like a psycho or get yourself arrested). One recently-dumped friend of mine used to save up her glass bottles for recycling, and on a day when the feelings of anger or hurt were too much, she'd go smash them into the recycling bins. I dealt with a hideous break-up by running a lot with a friend of mine on this trail out in the woods where she would encourage me to do a little primal scream therapy as we ran. Sounds crazy, but a burst of physical energy along with a lot of noise really lets it out.
Second thing is, look your best even though you totally don't feel like it. It's almost a
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your ex while looking fantastic, but that's not really the point. The real point is to
feel good about you, and maybe get some attention from others of the opposite sex. The
trauma of a relationship ending can make you feel really low and unattractive, but you
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But being dumped? That requires a much, much more aggressive approach, in my opinion. It's fine to deal with feelings and blah blah blah, but I would say ACTION is what's needed. Get back on the horse as soon as you can. Go ahead and actually meet some of the hook-ups from Adult Friend Finder, (http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/g7356-pct.subist003" onmouseover="window.status='http://www.adultfriendfinder.com';return true" onmouseout="window.status='';return true">www.adultfriendfinder.com) call up a missed-opportunity person from the past (you know, someone you didn't get together with because you were in a relationship), ask friends if they know someone you can meet, go out with friends. It may feel awkward at first, but it's better to face it right away and get those feelings over with so you can start to have a good time.
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In short, MOVE ON. The sooner, the better. Forget revenge. The real answer is to be totally happy yourself. Nothing could serve cosmic justice better.
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